Im 13 and want to get pregnant is that a bad thing?
Topic: Business plan of baby care
November 20, 2019 / By Nikkole Question:
My name is Denise im 13 and i want a baby my boyfriend is 16 and he want one to so we were talking about it so he wants a kid so bad because he has one more year in high school and i just start high but he is about to turn 17 in july so i think is he is responsible of taking care a child i love him to death and i been with him for four months we actually been knowing each other longer than that so i need answer cause i want a baby i no how to take care of one i take care of my one year old nephew i been taking care of him since he was born so give me some answers please !!!!!!
But i already had sex before i have did it like 4 times but i stated having sex in the 4th grade i was like in the bed all the time still is but that's just me !!!!
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Lynne | 7 days ago
Oh. My. Goodness...
Honeychild, you are WAY too young. You've only just turned into a teenager for the first thing. You haven't been completely exposed to the real world yet. Taking care of a baby is really REALLY hard. It is WITHOUT A DOUBT, a full-time commitment.
On average, without name-brand supplies and other such things, it is roughly $205,000.00 to raise a child from birth to age 18. And that's just the necessary things, on an average middle-class income. That is a LOT of money. So first things first: have you graduated from high school with your diploma? Do you have a job? Does your boyfriend have a job? Are you completely able to support this hypothetical child COMPLETELY on your own, with no help from your family nor his? Do you have your own house? Do you have some way of paying for doctor checkups and such for prenatal care?
If you've answered "no" to ANY of those questions, you have absolutely no business thinking about having a baby while you're only thirteen years old. None, zip, zero, zilch, nada, diddly-squat nothin'.
And this boyfriend of yours... We'll PRETEND for a second that I am not completely weirded and creeped out with why a sixteen year old would want anything sex-related to do with a thirteen year old girl. What in the name of old Sam Hill is he thinking, wanting to knock you up, girl?! This boy is exactly that. A boy. A man has a plan. A boy likes his toys. And that is precisely what you are to him if that's what he wants. He does NOT want a baby. He's appealing to your maternal instincts and crazy hormones so that he can "get some." The saying, "teenage boys are only thinking about one thing"? From personal experience, this is almost always true. And from what I can tell of your boyfriend, this is completely true for him.
Don't be blind, sweetie. This guy is nothing but trouble, and if you end up pregnant, mark my words... He'll be gone faster than you can say, "oops." Get out of that while you can, and wait until you're older. Experience life and live it to the fullest; a child at your age won't let you do that. And giving birth at age 13 would almost inevitably have complications. You would have a high fatality chance, and so would your baby. I am telling you this with your best interests in mind.
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Why did you trust this breeder when she told you the b*tch was sterile? She was quite prepared to sell her dogs to a puppy mill. Therefore, not trustworthy.
I'm sorry, but you're going to HAVE to go to the vet. Especially if you don't know the date of mating. If she is allowed to go too far over, she can die and her pups can die too. You also NEED to know how many puppies to expect... if you don't know that some are left in there (dead or alive) then again... your pet's going to end up poisoned to death.
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For all we know... for all YOU know, she isn't even pregnant! Some b*tches can have VERY convincing pseudo pregnancies.
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If I were in your position, the simple fact is number one it's illegal to do so. You are a minor until you hit 17/18 and plus since you are 13 it may be that he is legally able to have sex, but since you are 13 you can't consent to sex, so it is considered statutory rape! So you shouldn't think about it because of that first fact. Number two, you are just starting high school and you are talking about kids, yet you aren't even MARRIED! Plus, it would kinda be an incredibly huge responsibility to have just one child, and trust me, it is not a smart idea especially when you have only known the guy for 4 months! Plus, unless you are already living on your own and have a steady income, I wouldn't recommend it because (I'm not sure about this, so forgive me if I'm wrong) you most likely have an income of less than 40$ a week. I would definitely not recommend it, especially since he is most likely not living on his own and doesn't have a good solid steady income. One question I have is does your boyfriend have a job and a car? and if so, does he live on his own? and even so, think about what your parents would say if you walked in the door and said, "Guys, I'm PREGNANT!!!" Again, I URGE you to reconsider. At the very least wait until you are both out of the house and on your own! Having a baby is a rediculously huge responsibility, especially if you are still in high school, because you have no time due to you always working on schoolwork. Now, this does depend on the exact details of the situation, but in the end the language is pretty clear: Wait until you are older and think very long and very hard about what you would be doing You have to think about exactly what you will do in a career so you will then have a steady income for your future family. In all honesty you should probably be thinking about that first before you think about kids. I hope I could help.
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You want a baby??? How are going to take care of the baby??? Guess what you aren't. Your parents will have because you will be in school and your boyfriend will be working two jobs to support the baby.So he will not be there to take care of the baby. Diapers. Food. Clothes. Doctor appointments....and all the essentials that a baby needs. l You may take care of your nephew but you don't pay for your nephew. Did you wake up ad have to feed your nephew when he was a infant???
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Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.
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Honey your just now starting high-school your just starting actual respobility....13...is too young.... 16 is too young u have 4 years of u school left if u choose to have a child u might as well just drop out cause u wont finish it anyways u dont even have a job and if you think he will be able to support u both off one income u have a ling road ahead of u!!!! Please for the love you god and the sake of the child do not!!! Have a baby
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